“Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus,” says Paul in Romans 8.
We always get stuck on Romans 1, as if that’s the point of Romans–to condemn people. The point of Romans is to remind those Christians in Romans the great sacrifice Christ made for all of us sinners, and show us the security we have as a believer. If you are a Christian, there is no condemnation in Christ. You are not condemned because you are gay, or because you have gay feelings, same-sex feelings or desires. Just like God won’t condemn you if you have straight feelings or desires. It would be silly for God to block certain people from his kingdom, as he issued a blanket invitation to the whole world.
I know I am not condemned because I am gay and still Christian, and I know that because thousands of other gays are Christian too. They are all over the world. We are just as led by the spirit as straight Christians, just as “saved” and “sanctified” and “forgiven” and “covered in the blood of Jesus.” Amen. The same transformation happened with me as it did with you: that our minds and desires were transformed from the things of this world, to the things above, and how we can become more like the people God wants us to become. Straight people don’t lose their sexual desire when they become Christian; neither do gay people. I was a Christian before I knew I was gay. And I’m certainly a Christian after I figured out I was gay.
Gay people are just like Straight people in that they can have Faith. Read this Barna research study about gay spiritual life. Apparently a lot of gays have strong beliefs, some of these gays are strong Christians. You can discuss more with them at several of their portal sites on the web like Gay Christian Network and Rainbow Christians.
You have to ask yourself how you measure Christianity in yourself. Is it [ the amount of times you read the Bible X how often you pray X how often you go to church X how much of the Bible you got memorized ] ? No, it’s not a math formula or a checklist. It’s about a personal relationship with God, a supernatural being who created humankind. It’s also about trying to live a moral life which involves more than sexual mores–it involves kindness, compassion, longsuffering, generosity, hospitality, and a whole lot more. Christians spend a lot of time on the sexual parts–but really, how we treat other people is more important. So, if you’re concerned about your Christianity only because you’re thinking you might be gay, stop worrying. You’re fine.
Christians measure our Christianity personally, on the inside. It’s not a series of things you do or don’t do. And if you’re worried about your relationship with God, that’s a good sign that you have one. People who aren’t Christian probably don’t care if God likes what they are doing or not.
So, what you need to do now is check out the Helpful Resources page. You probably want to read some scriptures and find out how gay christians interpret the Bible. We don’t do any hocus pocus on scripture to make it say “gay people are great.” It just never said what we’ve been taught that it said. And that page has resources that can show you what the Bible doesn’t say.
There are posts on my website here on famous gay Christians–people of faith who were gay, like Henri Nouwen, Ray Boltz, Jennifer Knapp, Sarah Em, Cardinal John Henry Newman, and even King James (for whom we credit the impetus for putting the most famous version of the Bible together). This is a small list because gay christians couldn’t be very famous before now—they kind of get excommunicated, or thrown out of their churches. You’ll find, however, that gay Christians are becoming more and more known, and we’re finding that historically those who have been hidden are being brought out.
If you are christian, and feeling same sex feelings, or know you are gay, it’s okay. You can be both, gay and Christian. God expects you to be both, and has a plan for your life just as he always has. You can’t derail God’s plans for you, no matter who you are attracted to. Chances are, that plan included the fact that you were gay.
PS. A special message to Jason Collins, NBA basketball player who came out today– “Don’t let anyone take God away from you. Anyone who says you can’t be Christian and gay has a) never been Christian and gay, and b) hasn’t heard of Presbyterians, Lutherans, Episcopalians, or all the other denominations that have realized that you can be gay and Christian–all their theologians are a lot smarter than an ESPN correspondent or a few conservatives who listen to too much evangelical TV. These voices who think they know God’s mind without study are like people who argue with their doctor because they read something on WebMD. Keep being the wonderful man God created you to be. Ignore them. They aren’t the voice of God.”